is feminism running in reverse gear?
cos first came bra burning...and now colour sharing.
it really doesnt matter to me...cos im not a feminist.
but i wasnt sure what to make of it...when colours started exploding on my facebook page...apparently to create awareness about breast cancer.
PINK.
SHOCKING PINK.
YELLOW.
GREEN.
DEEP PURPLE.
BLUE WITH WHITE STRIPES.
i even spotted a lime green with some contrast coloured butterflies on it.(!!!)
oh and then there was SILVER.
silver??
really????
id added this girl cos id met her through a friend and couldn't remember what she did for a living.
but let me tell you....not so sure about breast cancer....but hell it peaked my curiosity about her job.
in which profession does one wear a silver bra to work?!
ive promised myself not to "judge" people in 2010...but it gets hard.
very hard.
when someone i know is wearing a beige one....(simply cos it was playing peek-a-boo awhile back with her sweater)...and then she writes RED.
maybe she was being funny.
maybe she meant something else.
im trying not to do what id promised myself not to do.
but being a part of this "mass flirting exercise" on a social networking sight has exhausted me.
a storm in a C-cup as maddy says :)
i need some different hues now.
and i long for my very own personal rainbow...errr...the metaphorical one!
m
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Thursday, January 7, 2010
not so elementary, my dear...
im a hard-core fan and yet never knew holmes and watson had so much crackling chemistry between them! just wondering if the hotness scales will be able to handle pitt as the evil moriarty?!
m
m
Sunday, January 3, 2010
second, third and fourth thoughts...
crisp winter evening.
warm clothes.
rustling leaves each time there was a gust of cold wind.
smoke billowing somewhere.
glasses of red.
faint din of the conversation around.
really cosy and langurous.
hmmmm.....
thats the moment gyaani chose to burst my bubble!
right after he finished telling me that id never been politically correct...EVER.
i opened my mouth to argue..and then closed it.
thats the problem with really close friends.
they know you better than you think you know yourself.
so other than knowing all embarrasing details and stupid anecdotes about your life...what they do best is call your bluff.
see...the thing is gyaani doesnt agree at all with my last post.
too much analysing and putting it under the microscope...i think.
i valiantly tried to defend it.
after all i personally know ALL these types myself.
but something did hit home.
so i came back and re-read the whole thing again.
somewhere in that post...perhaps what was reflecting the most was my own disillusionment.
i still stand by the fact that all these different types do exist.
but yes...it would be more prudent....to not step out with prejudices.
after all 2010.....according to me....is going to be the year of the wild child.
the year where caution will be thrown to the wind.
risks will be taken.
and a life lived to the fullest.
without fear.
a dangerous game is about to begin...
PS: gyaani..keep the phone lines free...counsel maybe required. and now you'll only have yourself to blame :)
m
warm clothes.
rustling leaves each time there was a gust of cold wind.
smoke billowing somewhere.
glasses of red.
faint din of the conversation around.
really cosy and langurous.
hmmmm.....
thats the moment gyaani chose to burst my bubble!
right after he finished telling me that id never been politically correct...EVER.
i opened my mouth to argue..and then closed it.
thats the problem with really close friends.
they know you better than you think you know yourself.
so other than knowing all embarrasing details and stupid anecdotes about your life...what they do best is call your bluff.
see...the thing is gyaani doesnt agree at all with my last post.
too much analysing and putting it under the microscope...i think.
i valiantly tried to defend it.
after all i personally know ALL these types myself.
but something did hit home.
so i came back and re-read the whole thing again.
somewhere in that post...perhaps what was reflecting the most was my own disillusionment.
i still stand by the fact that all these different types do exist.
but yes...it would be more prudent....to not step out with prejudices.
after all 2010.....according to me....is going to be the year of the wild child.
the year where caution will be thrown to the wind.
risks will be taken.
and a life lived to the fullest.
without fear.
a dangerous game is about to begin...
PS: gyaani..keep the phone lines free...counsel maybe required. and now you'll only have yourself to blame :)
m
Saturday, January 2, 2010
we're just not that into him...
Disclaimer: im not a man hater. the thoughts expressed in this post are based on my own research in a particular phase in my life. i can totally do a turn around on any and everything mentioned here at any given date.
for all excited single girls...this is what is out there:
# THE OLDER MAN
he thinks he owns you...just by virtue of arriving in this world a few years earlier. we may as well have handed over our emotional remote control to him...cos he is now here in our lives to tell us how to live it. he is more experienced you see!
# THE YOUNGER MAN
he is too heavily under the influence of "the graduate". someone needs to gently break it to him that not all older women are running mrs robinson's sex-ed classes please!
# THE GOOD LOOKING MAN
going out with him is like being on a community date. cos he maybe sitting with you but he will be practically coming on to the entire room. anyone who happens to merely glance distractedly in his direction immediately gets labelled "an adoring fan"...believe me if ive to sit across someone preening the whole time...id much rather sit in front of the mirror at home doing my nails and drinking beer!
# THE UGLY MAN
okay a quick show of hands...and tell me who wants to go out with the ugly man?! i know its 'wrong' of me to say this...but lets accept the fact that while u dont have to be the next brad pitt...looks DO matter a little bit. if im revolted by what i see on the outside...there are very little chances that il hang around long enuff to see whats inside!
# THE RICH MAN
ooooo now this one is tricky. since our patriarchal setup has instilled in us that the man should be better placed in life than us...if he is TOO well placed chances are you can kiss your any and every decision making goodbye. everything is measured in terms of money and success and if uve seen 3 idiots u know what im trying to say....and girls it IS true.
# THE POOR MAN
if he ticks all the other boxes ud think he'd show promise. but beware girls. not to sound like a gold-digger or anything but he too is avoidable. especially since more than you he is concerned about his place in the relationship. and OMG his whine can even beat technology and come hit you in waves on texts and emails about how he is a failure. so going out with him.....all you'll end up with....is a huge bill...constantly putting yourself down for his benefit and hours of needless ego-stroking!
# THE OVER-EAGRE MAN
he is the worst. practically drooling and waiting for you to say jump and he will reply...how high?! aaaghhhhh
# THE ONE WITH MIND-GAMES
he likes and checks all the right boxes but watch out girls...cos going out with him is a mental exercise. he wants to keep you guessing till the very end so he will bombard you with mixed signals...if we wanted that much exercise we'd put in the new video game on ps3.
# THE EMOTIONAL MAN
he is the one who wants to get to know you...the real you. he wants to talk about you...about feelings...about thoughts...about likes dislikes everything...ALL the time. its like od-ing on emotional chow chow. if i wanted myself psycho-analysed that badly...frankly id much rather pay for it and lay on a professional's couch!
# THE INTELLIGENT MAN
ud think he'd be gods gift...but hello! his conversations are littered with the who's who of anything and everything...bombarding u with fcts and figures....from scientific equations to mathematical theorams...to why jazz music was considered inappropriate to the history of the finest single malt...all very exciting subjects...if only he had the gift of story telling as well. so all his accounts will slowly numb even the most alert brains and u really will have no escape.
# THE ONE YOU LIKE
he is the one who IS gods gift. he is intelligent...smart...funny...well read...interested in music...wil hang onto ur every word...tell u how smart cool and funny you are and mean it. and just when ul blush and lay ur hand over his...heart beating so loud ur sure he could hear it....he'll cover ur hand with his and smile and say:
"the girl i eventually fall for...i just hope she likes you. cos not liking my best friend could be a problem."
so girls if we gotta eat our hearts out....atleast lets do it in style. throw in that gloria gaynor cd....with a beer in hand...and lets shake to "i will survive..." cos thats what life eventually boils down to...doesnt it?
most of us eventiually will end up with one of the above mentioned kinds...some happy some not so much...but atleast we'll have friends we can laugh and cry about it with.
so here's to my best friend...you know what im trying to say through this very long post...very very inarticulately...i love you and we will survive.
xoxo
m
for all excited single girls...this is what is out there:
# THE OLDER MAN
he thinks he owns you...just by virtue of arriving in this world a few years earlier. we may as well have handed over our emotional remote control to him...cos he is now here in our lives to tell us how to live it. he is more experienced you see!
# THE YOUNGER MAN
he is too heavily under the influence of "the graduate". someone needs to gently break it to him that not all older women are running mrs robinson's sex-ed classes please!
# THE GOOD LOOKING MAN
going out with him is like being on a community date. cos he maybe sitting with you but he will be practically coming on to the entire room. anyone who happens to merely glance distractedly in his direction immediately gets labelled "an adoring fan"...believe me if ive to sit across someone preening the whole time...id much rather sit in front of the mirror at home doing my nails and drinking beer!
# THE UGLY MAN
okay a quick show of hands...and tell me who wants to go out with the ugly man?! i know its 'wrong' of me to say this...but lets accept the fact that while u dont have to be the next brad pitt...looks DO matter a little bit. if im revolted by what i see on the outside...there are very little chances that il hang around long enuff to see whats inside!
# THE RICH MAN
ooooo now this one is tricky. since our patriarchal setup has instilled in us that the man should be better placed in life than us...if he is TOO well placed chances are you can kiss your any and every decision making goodbye. everything is measured in terms of money and success and if uve seen 3 idiots u know what im trying to say....and girls it IS true.
# THE POOR MAN
if he ticks all the other boxes ud think he'd show promise. but beware girls. not to sound like a gold-digger or anything but he too is avoidable. especially since more than you he is concerned about his place in the relationship. and OMG his whine can even beat technology and come hit you in waves on texts and emails about how he is a failure. so going out with him.....all you'll end up with....is a huge bill...constantly putting yourself down for his benefit and hours of needless ego-stroking!
# THE OVER-EAGRE MAN
he is the worst. practically drooling and waiting for you to say jump and he will reply...how high?! aaaghhhhh
# THE ONE WITH MIND-GAMES
he likes and checks all the right boxes but watch out girls...cos going out with him is a mental exercise. he wants to keep you guessing till the very end so he will bombard you with mixed signals...if we wanted that much exercise we'd put in the new video game on ps3.
# THE EMOTIONAL MAN
he is the one who wants to get to know you...the real you. he wants to talk about you...about feelings...about thoughts...about likes dislikes everything...ALL the time. its like od-ing on emotional chow chow. if i wanted myself psycho-analysed that badly...frankly id much rather pay for it and lay on a professional's couch!
# THE INTELLIGENT MAN
ud think he'd be gods gift...but hello! his conversations are littered with the who's who of anything and everything...bombarding u with fcts and figures....from scientific equations to mathematical theorams...to why jazz music was considered inappropriate to the history of the finest single malt...all very exciting subjects...if only he had the gift of story telling as well. so all his accounts will slowly numb even the most alert brains and u really will have no escape.
# THE ONE YOU LIKE
he is the one who IS gods gift. he is intelligent...smart...funny...well read...interested in music...wil hang onto ur every word...tell u how smart cool and funny you are and mean it. and just when ul blush and lay ur hand over his...heart beating so loud ur sure he could hear it....he'll cover ur hand with his and smile and say:
"the girl i eventually fall for...i just hope she likes you. cos not liking my best friend could be a problem."
so girls if we gotta eat our hearts out....atleast lets do it in style. throw in that gloria gaynor cd....with a beer in hand...and lets shake to "i will survive..." cos thats what life eventually boils down to...doesnt it?
most of us eventiually will end up with one of the above mentioned kinds...some happy some not so much...but atleast we'll have friends we can laugh and cry about it with.
so here's to my best friend...you know what im trying to say through this very long post...very very inarticulately...i love you and we will survive.
xoxo
m
Friday, January 1, 2010
a few good men...
when ur recently single...the worst kind of fate awaits you.
matchmaking friends.
dont get me wrong. friends are great.
i know they are well meaning.
BUT.....
so these days i get lectured on "being open" ... "more accomodating".
on "how to stop looking for the 'purrrfect' man".
oh and did i mention "be nice" ... "be sexy"??
isnt that an oxy moron?
the two i thought were mutually exclusive...since "nice" girls are not "sexy" and "sexy" girls are not "nice".
ive not found that perfect balance between the two so im still bumbling my way through "dates".
oh and did i mention they are all "blind"??
are u worried about too many "within quotes" in this post???
i am too....very worried....each time im introduced to a guy who "just happens to be single" someone we just "happen to run into"!!!
and i seem to have forgotten the dating rules.
the other day when i asked this boy his name...he said "whatever u want me to be"!!
wasnt that part of the list of cheesiest things you never say?!
or has that list now changed? im not sure..
over the next few weeks il be telling you all the things we have to endure to land that perfect date.
but after 3 disastrous attempts all in one night later....my confidence maybe shaken.
so i wanna think hard about what i want out of life.
what is it that i want to be.
in the meantime il continue my education and update you.
feel free to send all those "single" entries my way.
i promise il be sexy...or nice.
or whatever...
m
matchmaking friends.
dont get me wrong. friends are great.
i know they are well meaning.
BUT.....
so these days i get lectured on "being open" ... "more accomodating".
on "how to stop looking for the 'purrrfect' man".
oh and did i mention "be nice" ... "be sexy"??
isnt that an oxy moron?
the two i thought were mutually exclusive...since "nice" girls are not "sexy" and "sexy" girls are not "nice".
ive not found that perfect balance between the two so im still bumbling my way through "dates".
oh and did i mention they are all "blind"??
are u worried about too many "within quotes" in this post???
i am too....very worried....each time im introduced to a guy who "just happens to be single" someone we just "happen to run into"!!!
and i seem to have forgotten the dating rules.
the other day when i asked this boy his name...he said "whatever u want me to be"!!
wasnt that part of the list of cheesiest things you never say?!
or has that list now changed? im not sure..
over the next few weeks il be telling you all the things we have to endure to land that perfect date.
but after 3 disastrous attempts all in one night later....my confidence maybe shaken.
so i wanna think hard about what i want out of life.
what is it that i want to be.
in the meantime il continue my education and update you.
feel free to send all those "single" entries my way.
i promise il be sexy...or nice.
or whatever...
m
invictus....
beginning well they say is half the job done...so im starting this new year with a post that will be a constant reminder to myself ... that nothing is impossible.
this was one of nelson mandela;s favourite poems. after 27 years of darkness if he could keep the faith and keep going...i have really no reason to whine all the time.
INVICTUS
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud,
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul
- William Ernest Henley
have a great year and yes....keep those dreams alive. you never know when they'll come true and ul go WOOOHOOOOOO ;)
m
this was one of nelson mandela;s favourite poems. after 27 years of darkness if he could keep the faith and keep going...i have really no reason to whine all the time.
INVICTUS
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud,
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul
- William Ernest Henley
have a great year and yes....keep those dreams alive. you never know when they'll come true and ul go WOOOHOOOOOO ;)
m
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